DANA'S MINDFUL MINUTE: TRUST THE PROCESS
posted: Jul. 28, 2023.
INSPIRATION THIS WEEK: SEED QUOTE
“For a seed to achieve its greatest expression, it must come completely undone. The shell cracks, its insides come out and everything changes. To someone who doesn't understand growth, it would look like complete destruction.”
― Cynthia Occelli
THEME OF THE WEEK: GROWTH IS MESSY
I like to orient my clients to the process of therapy and what to expect throughout the process. One thing I tell my clients is that I'm not always going to be your "best friend." I will challenge my clients and push them through their journeys, NOT to be an asshole, but to get you to where you want to be.
And I smile when we hit the "meaty stage". Just as my clients are telling me that "this sucks, this is hard, I want to quit", that's when I know we're getting somewhere. I smile because I have the confidence in each one of you to move through this tough stage if you keep doing the work.
Our natural response to any form of change is resistance. And the universe's response to us changing is to challenge us and test us. So when a client is starting to set boundaries and be more assertive, and others respond with resistance and push back, my client thinks they got it wrong and they want to back down. When a client is starting a mindful eating journey and doing really good identifying their hunger cues and treating food as fuel, all of a sudden they'll have a surge of cravings, and they'll think things aren't working.
These clients will go on to get angry, irritated, confused, etc. They will feel like they are a hot mess and Murphy has a personal vendetta against them. But then we have to reference that seed above.
When you feel like you are working the steps and yet the world is crashing down around you, just remember you are the seed. You are coming undone and that process is messy and gross, but the universe is testing your strength. That is the moment you have to persevere with consistency and keep doing what you are doing....you WILL prevail and the days will get brighter.
CHALLENGE THIS WEEK: TRUST THE PROCESS
As a client of mine you've probably wanted to punch me when I've inevitably told you this: "trust the process." For those of you who haven't heard it yet, you will...and I want you to come back to this reminder post to stick with it. For those who HAVE trusted the process with me and seen the fruits of your labor, give yourself a gold star because you're doing great! And for those of you in that messy process right now, breathe, meditate on the visual of you as the seed, and remind yourself that you are exactly where you need to be, there are good plans ahead of you as long as you keep doing the work!
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