DANA'S MINDFUL MINUTE: GROWTH EDGES
posted: Feb. 12, 2022.
Inspiration This Week:
I came across this quote on Facebook and it spoke to me:
When you're not used to being confident, confidence feels like arrogance.
When you're used to being passive, assertiveness feels like aggression.
When you're not used to getting your needs met, prioritizing yourself feels selfish.
Your comfort zone is not a good benchmark.
Theme This Week: Don't Let Your Comfort Zone Scare You!
I think this quote above does an excellent job of sharing the feeling that emerges whenever we meet our growth edge. The first thing we are always going to be smacked with is resistance. Resistance from our environment, those around us, and even ourselves.
I usually get dirty looks when I tell a client to prioritize their needs first. That's because someone who is so used to doing for others and encouraged to change is going to see this as a foreign and threatening concept. I also tell my clients to trust me and the process, and I promise I won't ever let them go that far on the other end of the spectrum of being completely self-involved.
PLEASE do not shy away from that first bout of resistance. I promise, you are on the right track! The resistance you are feeling inside or outside is just the first step in the process of real change. Our bodies, minds, and relationships like to stay in a state of homeostasis and stability, so when any change disrupts the natural flow, we are met with resistance. Don't let that fool you!
The beauty in this is that once we power through the resistance, there is relief, opportunity, and growth ahead. That person that fought back initially when you set boundaries will come to know the new behavior and respect you more for it. You could possibly get that promotion you've been scared to ask about. The possibilities are endless, but you have to be willing to step out of your comfort zone to get there!
Challenge This Week: Find Your Growth Edge
What is something that you've been wanting to change or in the process of changing that feels uncomfortable or you are being met with a lot of resistance? Are you setting boundaries with someone and they are pushing back? Do you feel selfish trying to ask for time for yourself? When you assert yourself do you feel like you are demanding? Pause...breathe...and then keep doing it...because it's working!
"Life begins at the end of your comfort zone" - Neale Donald Walsch
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